For years I begged and pleaded for a clothes dryer – I had clothes in front of the fire, clothes in the sunporch, clothes in the carport, clothes in the linen cupboard, and clothes on the outside clothes line. Hours upon hours were spent in processing washing, and then hours were spent bemoaning my lack of time off, the continuous grind of housework, the frustration and irritation with the kids because I never had enough time in the day to get everything done so I couldn’t spend time doing fun things with the children – which was the whole point in having them!
Finally, it wasn’t until I realised the impact the wet hanging items were having on our house and therefore on our health, did I start to really rethink the situation. I also didn’t realise that with very strong-willed, traditional men, its not until you yourself are fully convinced of the problem that they start to sit up and take notice. I also became aware of how I simply was not enjoying my motherhood experience because my valuable time was being taken up with tasks that were essential but of limited value. So I started letting things stay on the line until a dry day came, instead of rushing to get them in even when partly dry and then having to finish them off somewhere else – hence double hanging. I would spend this time reading a book to a child or doing a jigsaw puzzle – having quality time with my children.
Not only did I save time, but to a traditional man, this simply was not right – you cant leave the same things hanging on the line for days on end – and it did not look good to the neighbours and was too unconventional – something had to be done, and it was – a clothes dryer was promptly purchased. It felt like such a luxury to have such a piece of equipment in our house – I felt like royalty…but with a twist. We could afford to buy something expensive, but too poor to use it!
At this point I didn’t understand the true efficiency of the machine, so only used it when it had been raining for a few days and the carport line was full. I no longer hung things inside as I now understood the unhealthiness of living inside a hothouse- and simply did not want to continue growing the unwanted organisms of mould and fungus. It wasn’t until one of my boys was stung twice, and hubby was also stung from a wasp inside their clothes that hanging clothing on the carport line stopped. I dreaded the power bill that month, but I needn’t have. I was now using it every second day but the criticism from its use also increased. Even these negative comments stopped however when the expensiveness of the clothes dryer came up for discussion with a visiting electrician who made the comment that one load of clothes in the dryer cost no more than between 30-50 cents! For some this was the cost of a takeaway hot drink, or a chocolate bar a week – I don’t buy these things so my luxury item became my time.
I now have time to read to my children every day for over 30 minutes, be in the garden, spend time with hubby, visit with my friends and family, have time off. The clothes dryer can spend valuable time doing the unimportant but necessary things of life, while I spend my time doing the truly valuable things that only I can do – building relationships and memories that money cannot buy and a machine cannot do. What is the real cost of saving money when you lose precious quality time with your children? I know what is of more value.
Hello everyone! I'm so excited to be able to share some of my experiences with you, and so look forward to hearing some of yours. My passion is to help others avoid unrequited love, and to enjoy, (rather than endure) their parenthood experience. I am no expert in these areas but want to try and fill in some of the gaps the experts don't talk about, or simply gloss over. I look forward to your thoughts.