For years I had nagged, whined, demanded, reasoned, and out and out fussed with, “You should look after the kids because you’re a parent too!”, “I need some time off, you have lots of it.” and other statements that brought about nothing more than annoyance on his behalf, and volcano-erupting frustration on mine. I tried different tactics, read umpteen self-help books, and talked to an endless number of people to discover their secret for success – all to no avail. Everything I read confirmed that it WAS my right to have timeoff, it WAS my right to have the parenthood load halved by the other parent. Most other parents had opted for the forced approach and simply threatened to leave, or did temporarily, shocking the partner into fulfilling their role – I didn’t think this was a good option for me – there had to be a better way.
Then along came, The Pineapple Story THE PINEAPPLE STORY FULL INSPIRATIONAL – YouTube. Otto Konning describes his experience with dealing with natives who continuously stole his pineapples while he is in the role of doing missionary work for them within their village. He is so open and humourous with the way he recounts his story that I watched it twice in the first sitting. I then purchased the set so I could listen to them all while driving. The whole set can be purchased by emailing Gordon on: firstname.lastname@example.org from the website: http://ati.iblp.org.nz. Otto’s doctrine on life after death differs from mine but other than that the messages are ones to change your life. Once slotted in my car CD player I became fixated on listening to the story over and over again, intuitively knowing that within this story was the inspired answer and solution to my problem. After the sixth time of listening to the story I realised that his message was based on a principle that was taught by Bill Gothard and so jumped onto Bill’s website and read the article on rights: http://iblp.org/questions/what-principle-ownership. After reading this I realised I had just been given the escape route from anger, frustration and helplessness. This was message I finally got:
Hello everyone! I'm so excited to be able to share some of my experiences with you, and so look forward to hearing some of yours. My passion is to help others avoid unrequited love, and to enjoy, (rather than endure) their parenthood experience. I am no expert in these areas but want to try and fill in some of the gaps the experts don't talk about, or simply gloss over. I look forward to your thoughts.